People rally to your immediate support when you have an obvious loss, a death, and the loss of a job, a breakup from a lover or a child leaving home. But what of the not so obvious losses? The loss of your self-confidence, the loss of a friend or even your sanity? If the crush people around you in hours of pain could be spread out to cover grief that surrounds all losses, would that be more helpful?

I ‘d like to listen more carefully to those around me so I can share their losses, obvious and not so obvious in the panic of disbelief or the long winter of reality.

Losses are often quiet. They slip the earth from under us. One day we have; the next day we don’t.

But after all, routine goes on and some one must do the dishes.

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